By Seyi Mafolabomi

I learn daily.

Presently, I’m still negotiating through a myriad of feelings and sentiments, after Busola Dakolo accused Biodun Fotoyinbo of rape. I was suspicious early on, with the manner in which Timi had been dropping unmusical lines about the Abuja-based pastor for some time. It didn’t help that this isn’t exactly the first time he’s been fingered in similar circumstances.

Feelings are a difficult thing, however. So, I will try to walk in faith and in the wisdom of Christ. Many things have become plain to me in the last two or three days, or maybe, just reinforced.

1. The first reaction to scandal is most usually human, and probably wrong. I didn’t need to see all of Busola’s video interview before I became annoyed. Personally, Biodun Fatoyinbi isn’t my favourite person, and it was really easy to mindlessly corroborate the accusations in my mind. For that, I gave myself a good talking-to. You never react in such a manner because the flesh profits nothing.

2. There is an unhealthy veneration of the five-fold ministers, particularly pastors and teachers. While I understand that these people must be honoured, I think the pedestal we have placed them on as Gospel rockstars is probably one of the reasons they are more susceptible to pride and failure. First, the reputation becomes really great and more important, making humility difficult. Second, the church suffers from it, because it becomes difficult to see issues clearly without the colourations of our opinions of people.

3. We have become a people who find it easy to judge others by their actions, and ourselves by our intentions. I look at the standards we place on leaders, and how we can easily castigate them when we are suffering from the same issues in smaller scales. We excuse ourselves because we are “we”, and bring the gavel down on them because they’re “them”. Of course, they’re leaders, and so they must not receive so much human compassion. But when you look at how people have ripped into the Dakolos and Fatoyinbos, well… 🤷‍♂️

4. In truth, many people who call upon the name of the Lord do not know the Lord. We are people ruled by sentiments, by church affiliations, and loyalties to “men of God”. We are people somewhat far removed from the truth of the Gospel. Our churches are becoming entertainment theatres and so when issues like this come up, we respond as churches and denominations, and not as the Body of Christ.

5. Regardless, the Body is what is being dragged here. Understanding that the world is watching with enthusiasm, this will not start and end as a case of two individuals, but as a case of Christians and “how they behave”. It is not enough to belong to one side of the argument. It is not enough to not be in any camp. It is not enough to sit on the fence. We are all in it, all those who truly believe in Christ. Our faith is in display, and in the heat. It affects us all.

6. This is not persecution. We messed up, that we are out in the world like this, Christians. Persecution is when we are troubled and mistreated for living the life of Christ, and standing in that position where we are against the values of the world. This is not in the realm of persecution.

7. The world never looks to us for direction, but is always quick to impose that standard on us when we fail. That is to let us know that whether the soup likes it or not, the salt is the salt. When the salt is right, the people say the soup is delicious. When the salt has issues, people say it clearly, that the salt is not enough.

8. The Church needs to have honest conversations that are Word-centric. The real truth is that many Christians, pastors and members alike, are truly unaware of what the burden of light is, and what it truly means to walk in the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ. It is power, not an excuse.

The pain is all ours to bear.

9. Jesus Christ loves all of us. He loves the Dakolos and the Fatoyinbos. He died for them before they were born. It is immaterial that they have approached this matter in the right manner, or in your preferred manner. That will never change, the fact that Jesus loves them. The truth, that is, that Jesus loves them. As believers, you ought to love them too.

10. The Church must never, ever, excuse sin. Yet, our approach to sin in the Body is to treat it as to remove the sin, not severe that part of the Body. Our love for both parties must be in pursuit of a transcendental relationship growing between them and God. They have healing in that place, they have fellowship in that place, they have the love of a Father in that place.

We must uphold both parties in prayer, and as the issue becomes clearer, we must speak the truth in love. The Truth is the totality of the Word, not our opinion. We must pray that they are strengthened, and that they receive the courage required for humility, for submission to the Word, and that the Holy Spirit causes them to remember love over hate, forgiveness over grudges, and that their minds are healed, and renewed to conform into the image, the persona, the true nature of their calling in Christ.

Needless to say, Christ died for our sins. His love covers he multitude of sin, and no one is less loved by the Father. He loved us. 🤸‍♂️ It means He cannot love us more. He has loved us as fully as love can go.

But…

Jesus Christ paid for our sins. We pay for our crimes. Understanding this might be the key to many more understandings for you, personally.

We must never let our reputation get to the point where we are unable to lay down stuff, admit our faults, face the consequences, and be truly free. Because, that’s where we truly find out who matters to us the most: the people, or our Father.